Tuesday, March 23, 2010

The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

I was card shopping yesterday and was both happy and disheartened to see that there are new categories of greeting cards.

There were cards for people suffering from depression. Cards for stressed out new mommies. Cards for break-ups (encouragement, not breaking up because that would be as bad as by text message). And cards for cancer patients.

The good news is, there is a card for the difficult moments when you, yourself, are at a loss for words. Someone wrote the perfect thing for you. Some with humor, some with encouragement, some with prayer.

The bad news is, there is a great need for these cards, especially the cancer and depression. There were pink cancer cards for breast cancer. There were cute cards for hair loss due to chemo therapy. There were sweet cards for those struggling through daily darkness.

But the ugly news is that I could not find the right card for the situation...an acquaintance facing life's final battle. How do you say "I'm so sorry you are dying, hope hospice is fun?" There are so many great hardships in life...job loss, illness, depression, heartbreak...but this, well this leaves me speechless. I know that any sentiments I can express are not enough for her or her family.

I know that prayer is the greatest comfort, and one I offer willingly and eagerly. I pray for her, I pray for her husband and her daughter. I pray for her care givers.
But how do I put into words that my heart is breaking for her and that I wish her peace on her final journey?

Where are you now, Hallmark?

1 comment:

MileHighBaker said...

Hard to be at that place, for sure. Why not simply write a note that uses that last line in the second to last paragraph. Sometimes we get caught up in worrying about profound, and we miss the chance to be simply heartfelt. (Guilty as charged, here.) Hugs to you for your loss, as well.